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3.1. Work & care
From the right to self-determination and participation in a liveable world, every individual, is, according to his ability, both responsible for taking care of themselves, as proportionately, co-responsible for the care of a liveable, themselves and others not damaging world-society.
3.1.1. Individual responsibility
Adulthood brings many responsibilities with it. First you need to search, find and furnitture a place to live, and buy clothing, food and other things. Then you have daily to cook and weekly to wash, clean, gardening, do-it-yourself jobs, and so on. And besides that you still have your societal responsibilities. That means continually weigh and choose what you want, can and first and afterwards will do and how you attune that with your environment and others. Because once you're officially an adult, you are personally responsible for the choices you make and the way you attune that to others.
Also in friendships and relationships you make choices. Choices you do better good to think about, as friendships and establishing relationships namely creates obligations. You are more intensively involved with the wishes and pursuits of the other and must attune both interests properly, without wrong one another.
Starting a friendship or relationship with an egoist means starting a friendship or relationships with someone who just does or wants to do what he or she wants.
Starting a friendship or relationship with an [whether or not consciously strategic] conformist, means starting a friendship or relationship with someone who mirrors like a chameleon to the environment and only wants what for him or her important others are wanting.
Yourself having no feelings of consideration with the wishes of others, but nevertheless wanting a friendship or relationship, means expecting from the other one that they mirror your will. In other words, that they make their wills subordinate to that of yours. Which means having unreasonable demands yourself and expecting from friendships or relationships that they tolerate unreasonable desires. And with that being unreasonable itself, as well in relation to themselves as to you and others.
Your will [consciously or not for strategic reasons] subordinate to [potential] friends, relatives and others, means your wishes pressing to the background [cconsciously or not, whether or not because you yourself have learned that in your childhood, or forced to do so] and that of others placing in the foreground. Which means harmful to yourself and undemocratic behaviour play into the hand. And therefore unreasonable, both in terms of yourself and towards others.
Not being reasonable yourself and starting friendships or relationships with people who also are [or wants to be] unreasonable, means, either strike up a fighting [whether hidden or not] over who is or may be the most unreasonable, or close deals to who, when and how may be unreasonable. In all cases, the reasonableness tastes defeat.
Every adult is responsible itself for the way he or she participates in the ffamily/culture and world/society/society. Even as they are selfish, conformistic, violent and [manipulative] dictatorial.
Every adult is responsible itself for the consequences of his or her choices. Even if there is little or no thought about or [for some reason] is copied. Also, if we let ourselves be influenced or bullying by the family and others. The consequences of our conscious and unconscious choices can never, ever be shift on to others. Even if we later on regret.
- The consequence of starting a friendship or relationship with an egoïst means constantly keep the likes of another in mind without receiving anything in return, because an egoist is only interested in themself and his or her performance, appearance, wishes and disappointments. If that one don't want certain things or don't like that, he or she just does not do it and let it 'just' to others. If that other person there - whether with arguments or not - [still] set limits on, distances themself or disconnects the friendship or relationship, the selfish is or angry if not infuriated, or is immediately looking for a new victim, or blackmails the other[s] with pettiness, 'helplessness', self-pity and slander ['look what that person did to me'].
The consequence of starting a friendship or relationship with a [wether or not conscious strategic] conformist means friendship or relationship with a chameleon; you never know what the other person wants itself. He or she does the one time what you want, the next time what his or her family wants, then what his or her colleagues and bosses want, then what his or her [other] friends want, then what societies, religions, political parties, cultures or the general opinion of conformists, led by the media want, and when there are children, what their kids want. To satisfy all of them, he or she usually makes a combination of it and then says that it's his or her identity to do what others want. And then be sick of it or complaining that no one is paying attention to his or her, that he or she is so busy doing what another want, that he or she never does what he or she wants itself, that don't know any more, or can't choose because there will be always someone whom might want something different.
3.1.2. Collective responsibility
Living together brings all sorts of tasks and responsibilities along with it. Both on a personal level indoors as at a social level outdoors. If we want to create society just and peaceful, we will need to start with it, indoors on a personal level and socially act to that, because the alignment at home is reflected in society and in reverse. In other words, what you intrinsically like, you have to carry out extrinsically. Both verbally and non-verbally, mentally and physically. [Not to confuse with all these external ideas that you've mirrored in the course of time, verbally and non-verbally and otherwise internalized and automated].
Living together means together ensure that we both, everyone on his own and together, can develop in a way that fits with each of us. This is true both at a individual level and on a world scale. As the many conflicts on individual and global level shows, is that not that easy yet. It requires a logical, reasonable, [self]critical and empathic thinking skills, the desire to attune own priorities in a reasonable way to those of others and the assertiveness to expect the same from others. Otherwise you create, whether involuntary or not, egoists and elitist behaving groups and cultures who think pharaotic rights to keep in, and a lot of slaves, who has to refurbish the 'dirty work' they themselves have no desire to.
Sharing a house means that both partners each take up half the home-garden-kitchen tasks. If one of them does not make sense to perform certain tasks and want you to pay for it, you give it - assuming none of that for you - without strugglling or enforcing, verbally your review and distance yourself nonverbally with disgust. If necessary, if nothing changes, by severing the relationship, because maintaining a relationship with someone who does not want to be or become reasonable, or is constantly coming up with all kinds of excuses, is a relationship to continue with a selfish personality who claims an elitist positon and dictates others to remove the tedious chestnuts out of the fire.
Sharing a house with children means that each parent - at least the first three years of each child - at least two days a week stays at home [so together four days a week]. The fifth day the child comes to the nursery, where it also has the opportunity to interact with other children, a group and other adults. From the third year until the sixth year the child will gradually increase to preschool [kindergarten]. Work outdoors is attuned to this. Also in the following years the tasks indoors and outdoors is carefully matched.
3.1.3. Societal tasks
To make and hold the earth and society liveable, there are a lot of tasks to perform. Just like home even these tasks are not always fun or interesting. Since it is - just like home - unjust and damaging to leave the less pleasant tasks to others, also the societal tasks are as much as possible evenly distributed. As much as possible on the basis of interest, abilities and sense of responsibility.
For a pleasant life without unhealthy stress, a good balance between work, care and individual development is required. For this reason, working in part-time jobs will be facilitated as much as possible. Work-activities will be as much as possible arranged in part-time positions. Where socially necessary or desired - temporarily or otherwise - additional work can be done.
Everyone is entitled to at least 2 days a week work. Where possible pleasant jobs and to the needs and abilities appropriate.
Work can be done by payment of standard money or volunteer money. Standard money is money that has been prevalent in circulation [Dollars, Euros, etc.]. Volunteers money is a similar system that has the same value as the Euro.
Temporary or permanent work-activities is, on the condition of not damaging themselves and others, in writing and/or oral registerd and/or agreed and paid in cash or voluntary standard money.
Adults are economically seen as self-employed without employees. For all activities [on world-scale] is the same minimum wage of € 15, - per hour. In two days of work, based on an hourly rate of € 15, - per hour, they earned € 240, - per week. This is [according to 50 weeks] € 12 000, - per year. Along with the basic inkomen`is this an income of € 24,000, -. Together with a ditto working partner this is a combined income of € 48,000, -.
3.1.4. Healthcare
Where people can't care [any more] for themselves and need a helping hand, help it is only given when everything has been tried and it really fails.
In physical problems must always be looked at what still can. Likewise in mental problems.
Many mental problems have a physical origin or effect and many physical problems have a mental origin or effect. Most doctors, however, are hardly trained in the relationship between body and mind and do psychosomatic complaints [connection between physical and mental problems] as being 'between the ears', 'will pass'. Many complaints, however, can be traced back to stress. Stress slurps vitamins and minerals and put people in such a way that each exercise is too much. Prolonged stress can lead to various diseases. Different eating and living habits [otherwise deal with stressors and a good vitamin and mineral balance] and regular healthy exercises appear to reduce a lot of physical and mental problems in no time, or to remove. To enable doctors [including nurses] to draw appropriate links between mental and physical origin and effect, and reverse, psychology and knowledge of vitamins and minerals, stress and lifestyle have to represent a much more important part of medical education. In psychological training, vitamins and minerals, stress, lifestyle and medical connections have to anchored better.
On General Practice Services standard a doctor, psychologist, nutritionist, physiotherapist and nurse have to be present at.