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2.2.1. 'I want' time
0 m: I want determine myself what I want. This is the investigation phase. At this stage the child learns to discover what is available in the world, what is accessible and what is out of reach, what is free and where which price-tag is on it. Learns the child to make weigh-ups, selections and choices.
9 m: I want and you want. This is the empathy phase. The ability to imagine oneself in someone else's thoughts and experiences. In this phase will be learned how the wishes of the one, on yourself or others not damaging way and distance, can be attuned to others.
18 m: I want this but not that. This is the enterprising phase.Here are, on the condition of not damaging yourself and others, as many options offered as possible, because exploring opportunities and making own choices, based on a broad offering is the foundation of any identity. Without a wide range of possibilities, not only the choices are limited and therefore still, on an trojan way, driven in a by others desired direction For example, "to make it easier '[easier for whom?], but also not practiced in analyzing and weighing of the pros and cons.
27 m: I want to be myself. This is the identity phase. Is the realization that you are an trinity of that what you want, can and are doing. learning to make responsible choices is therefore for everyone, young and old, children and adults, of great importance. Reconsidering belongs to that. Reconsidering means that something isn 't quite clear yet. That not sufficient information is available, the information isn't appropriately linked to knowledge, there a conflict is arising with old information and previous experiences, or that they are hesitating because of the consequences of each choice entail [if I choose another find me stupid, I'm excluded or mentally, physically, economically and/or cultural-socially threatened].