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2.2.3. 'I do' time
6 jr: I want determine myself what I am going to do. This is the preference phase. At this stage each child determines – on the condition of not damaging themselves and others,- self what he or she is going tot do now and in the future, with his or her till then developed wishes and knowledge. And how. To what extent he or she wants or can do it alone, and to what extent together with others. A self-conscious child knows what it wants and be able to. Knows how to interact with others. Know how it can face the mistakes from themselves and others. Knows how to repair own mistakes. Knows how it can discuss with others, without damaging themselves and others. And knows when and how to take the necessary distance from others.
n7 jr: I do this and you do that. This is the inventory phase. Each child is faced with the choices and activities of themselves and others. At this stage is examined and inventoried what is and is not desirable and possible. And why. The child becomes more and more aware of what and how much influence the thoughts, feelings, experiences and choices of others are persueing his or her own life. What the impact and attraction of group formation is:
- you are not alone,
- you learn to know [better] the desires, motives, arguments, feelings, choices, options and imposibilities of others (better) know.
- you can work together to generate something [a common goal or project] what you can't do alone,
- you can - as part of the group – feel one with and be seen by other group-members and [together] feel strong enough to withstand potential threats.
but you can also face
- undemocratic assembled group-commandments of cultural-socially shamelessly enterprising individuals and groups who have got a
- rigid group culture based on the law of the jungle, where you have little to say and,
- hardly selection possibilities but plenty
- obligations and commandments and prohibitions. who are not only be damaging for yourself but also for others. Especially for critics, unwillings and non-members.
7h jr: I do this but not that. This is the moral phase. Here comes the forethought and plans for the short and long term at issue. At this stage reconsiderations are made and conclusions from the so far made choices. The child now has a good understanding of the implications of all kinds of individual and group-related activities. What are the disadvantages of raising along with others [limited choice possibilities, strictly regulated attuning to others, potentially damaging consequences for themselves and others, etc]. And what the consequences are if you choose to develop on your own pursuits. If you - for whatever reason - don't want to do the same as the group / culture. Or not always, not that way, or under such conditions. [risk of rejection and worse of all those who have made group-based choices].
8q jr: I do it out of myself.This is the creative phase. At this stage choices, knowledge and skills are integrated and automated, and as such - naturally – turned into all kinds of creative processes. Both at individual and group level. This subsequently appears to many people to be the starting point for a creative development which in later stages of life often with pleasure is referred to.