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2.2.2. 'I can' time

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3 jr: I want determine myself what I can. This is the development phase. At this stage the child learns to weigh-up and select what it wants to be able to. And how that to develop. Learns it that and how it can build self-know­led­ge and self-confidence.

n4 jr: I can and you can. This is the self-confidence phase. Here the child learns to trust their own abi­li­ties. and open­ly admit that. It can intrinsically not let be fooled by positive or negative reactions of others. It may if re­ques­ted perform a specific task and make an extrinsic imposed test in that specific area. These can be hou­se-gar­den-kitchen as well as intellectual or creative competances. With this in the same way always is made use of spe­ci­fic interests and skills.

4h jr: I can this but not that. This is the self-critical phase. Self-examination highlights the natural judgment of child and adult. Learns children to deal smoothly with successes and shortcomings of themself and others. En­cou­ra­ges to share in a group with young and old viewpoints, to disagree, to tolerate rejections and har­vest ap­pre­cia­tions. The emphasis of ratings must always be constructive, not destructive, likewise where it con­cerns short­co­mings [what can you learn from your mistakes]. Children and adults [parents, teachers, caregivers and others] judge each other on that and be judged accordingly.

5q jr: I can be myself. This is the self-consciousness phase. The consciousness of a child who has de­veloped one­self on its own to an identity that self wants, can and does. An independent iden­ti­ty who can trust one­self be­cau­se he/shecan, where necessary, correctoneself in the desired direction. Someone who can ma­ke a dis­tinction between oneself and others. Between oneself and the environment. Who, without harming oneself or others, crea­tes and controls the necessary distance and righteous attunes to others. Someone who knows what he/she can and can't and what he/she can and can't expect from others.